Sunday, May 18, 2008

BWD: What Are You Meant to Do?

Change What Are You Meant to Do?

By: Ben DeGeorge

It is vital to plan very intelligently and work hard and smart in order to achieve your goals. However, this statement assumes that the goals you are pursuing are the correct ones. What if you are pursuing an end game that is in fact not the best for you? What if you have the potential to be 100 times more healthy, wealthy and satisfied? What if you are not even scratching the surface of your abilities and potential or even frittering away your energy in something that is not fulfilling?

My life has changed drastically over the past year and a half several times. I have questioned and re-questioned my personal strengths and interests and have altered my world view several times over. Once I decided to embrace and enjoy change, positive change began to occur very fast and was in fact incredibly thrilling.

Before you read on, I want you to pretend that you have no fear of the unknown. You can do anything. Most people fear any type of change. Be it something as simple as what time dinner is scheduled. They feel as if they are not ready or do not deserve more. You may be able to attain a better lifestyle. You can do whatever you would like to in your life. Making the leap of inhibitions will actually be incredibly fullfilling to you.

Do not be fearful. You will be fine.

Now that you are hypothetically ready for personal change, read on. Perhaps you will find that your current goals and mission are perfect for you. You could also find that you should flip 180 degrees to something new. Scary? Yes. But liberating once you realize that YOU CAN make that 180 degree turn if you choose to.

First, you must identify your interests and strengths. Use these questions as a source for introspection.

Print out these questions and spend a few minutes answering each.

What are your hobbies?
What do you enjoy spending your time doing?
What kind of movies and TV do you enjoy watching?
Where do you volunteer your time?
What do you enjoy reading about?
What do you daydream about?
What was the best job you ever had?
What annoys you?
If you were the "ruler of the world," what would you do?
If you won the lottery, what would you do?
Who are your favorite people?
How do you want to be remembered?
What is your political ideology?
What are your fundamental beliefs about the world and people?
Who do you admire?
What has been your greatest success story?
What have you always wanted to do?

Finally; If there was no chance of failure, what would you do today?

A person who does not have any fear can do anything. I mean it. Anything.

Examine your answers. Think very hard. Do not let social status or pressure, money, politics, friends, family or fear of the unknown creep into your imagination. I am certain you see information about yourself that you may not have synthesized together in the past.

Now complete the following personal statements;
I am interested in. . .
I believe in. . .
To be happy, I need. . .
I can do (fill in the blank) well.

Does your current station in life fulfill the above four statements that you made? Are you using all of your strengths? If you are not in the right place, do not despair. You can turn your professional or personal goals on a dime, once you have no fear.

If you are afraid of change, pick up the book; Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life by Dr. Spencer Johnson.

Do not wait to strike until the iron is hot. Make it hot by striking.

Good Luck!

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Ben DeGeorge is the Co-Founder and Chief Optimism Officer of Notable and Newsworthy. He offers consulting and coaching services and is always up for a "business" lunch or coffee.

He can be reached at bendegeorge@gmail.com or 585.472.4170.
To receive the weekly eZine, The VIP Profiles, email viprofile@gmail.com or visit http://notableandnewsworthy.blogspot.com

BWD: Quotes

quotesThe Quote Wall

Arranged by Ben DeGeorge

As you can see by the picture, I am a Sticky Note Quote Freak. I have been collecting meaningful quotes for the past three years and sticking them on my wall. I constantly refer to these for inspiration. Each one has a special meaning and I am able to recall exactly when the idea came to me and the circumstance surrounding it. These thoughts are paper gold for me, ideas that are always rolling around in my brain and have shaped who I am.

Here are a few of the sticky note quotes that are over my desk right now and are some of the most inspiring to me.

Be inspired by emotion but act on reason. -- Ben DeGeorge

If I can care about something, I can make half a million care. -- Unknown

The strongest steel comes from the hottest fires. -- Unknown

Speak softly but carry a big stick. -- Teddy Roosevelt

I don't write music; I invent it. -- Stravinsky

If you ask the right question, you get the right answers. -- Richard Koch

One who know others is wise. One who knows oneself is enlightened. -- Lao Tzu

If you do not know jewelry, know the jeweler. -- Warren E. Buffett

If you build castles in the air, your work need not be lost, now put the foundations under them. -- Thoreau

High Creativity is responding to situations without critical thought (playfulness). -- John Cleese

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

To be original, seek your inspiration from unexpected sources. -- Paul Arden

As you move towards effortlessness, success moves towards infinity. -- Unknown

A crisis is a terrible thing to waste. -- Paul Romer

Feel free to email your favorite quotes to viprofile@gmail.com

JWN: Why I Write for You


Why I Write


By: Joseph W. Norman


“My hope is that sharing my path with you enables you to let your life speak!”


A while back I read a book by Jeffrey Gitomer, my literary mentor, called The Little Green Book of Getting Your Way. In this work of sales genius, Jeffrey states that anybody can become a voice on a subject if they are published. So, I started to write about a few topics I have been passionate about for years; leadership, personal, and professional development. My articles initially appeared in the Life and Times of JWN, my personal section in The VIP Profiles.


Since that beginning, I have really become to think of myself as a writer. Before, I always knew I was good at it and often found myself using that ugly word “potential” far too often, but I never really applied it. The VIP Profiles gave me an outlet and the kick in the butt I needed to help me find myself.


There are a few very personal reasons why I write now. 1) I want to become known on a global scale as a thought leader, 2) I believe strongly in the concept of personal development and I want to share my thoughts on it with you, and, 3) Writing allows me to process my thoughts, so my writing now is my gift to myself. Through it, I solidify who I am and what I want to become.


Writing has truly helped me develop who I am. Some say it is selfish to write about your pursuits and share them, but I find it quite cathartic. Also, I try to do it in a way that is valuable. I’m a firm proponent of giving of yourself first, so my words are my way of sharing experiences; good, bad, or life changing, with you.


Although the system is definitely in place for the narcissist, my objective is primarily to share. I feel that through giving we learn more about ourselves and enable ourselves with an opportunity to inspire others. Throughout the entire production of The VIP Profiles this has been the primary goal. Now, with the writing I publish, that is my goal.


This has been the most valuable impact of The VIP Profiles to date. I know I cannot speak for Ben, but I can speak for myself. The impact the production of this eZine has had on me, goes above and beyond any other possible scenario or situation because it taught me how to be a giver and it showed me the wealth that comes from that.


I’m not talking about monetary wealth (yet), but rather the concept of wealth in general. You see, the world’s greatest leaders are also the world’s greatest philanthropists. There is a concept taught in the Bible and it is a fundamental principle of the universe. The more you give, the more you get.


This relates and directly corresponds to all things; time, money, energy, etc. It should be harnessed because the fulfillment it creates is beyond what any other action can create. That is why I write. In my effort to give of myself and share my path with you, I find fulfillment.


Know that the fundamental principle behind my articles is to share my journey with you. There are many things I have learned, practiced, and experienced as a primary producer of The VIP Profiles. One is that there are many people that have gone before us, who have trodden many roads, and experienced countless things. Their journey has a story which deserves to be heard and learned from.


Although I am a firm proponent of taking the road less traveled, I still believe you need to know where the other paths have led. This is my path shared for you. My hope is that sharing my path with you enables you to let your life speak!



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Joseph W. Norman, resides in Geneseo, NY, and is Co-Founder and Editor in Chief of The VIP Profiles. He offers lectures and keynote talks on leadership, personal, and professional development and is always up for a business lunch.


Joseph can be reached at Norms1523@gmail.com or 607.743.8569.


To receive the weekly eZine, The VIP Profiles, email viprofile@gmail.com or visit http://notableandnewsworthy.blogspot.com/


Sunday, May 11, 2008

BWD: Give More

Give More
By Ben DeGeorge
Gift_Giving

Hands that give also receive.

What did you give your mother on Mother's Day?

I have a record as a notoriously poor gift giver. I work hard to purchase or make something that is creative, cute, functional and most importantly; will not collect dust or be re-gifted. I remember birthdays and major holidays where I gifted a half dozen items each to the major people in my life. These often were gifting debacles. This past Christmas I gave my little brother a book on financial literacy (the first book I read freshman year in college - opening my mind to the world), gift certificates with things like; "Free Trip Anywhere" on it, a weird clip-on-tie I found and fireworks. What can I say, I'm a goof ball. I don't think he has used any of what I have given him yet. Perhaps the fireworks were used.

I realized that I need to improve a couple of things. 1) My gift decision making skills, 2) My gift packing skills, and, 3) My random giving skills. Once I decide to improve upon something, I end up mastering it. Right now, it is still a work in progress.

Giving is another way to make a powerful and lasting positive impact upon an individual. Another way to let your Very Impactful Personality run wild.

My favorite thing to give someone is a book (assuming it will add value to them). I sent JWN the book; The Star Principle: How It Can Make You Rich by Richard Koch. It is a book that changed my perception of investing in businesses and will probably do the same for him. It's perfect for him because he is coming out of college and will be building businesses for the next few years.

I have stopped spending money on items for myself. No more going out to eat (unless it is with someone else). I have discontinued the standard cup of coffee at the Hess gas station and now survive on cheap cheese sandwiches. I put the money saved into my gift fund.

I am a copious book collector, so books are the gift of choice for me. Perhaps you have something different that will become your trademark.

It feels incredible to give a gift. Start increasing the amount of random gifts you give to the people in your life. I gave my SUNY Geneseo house mates panda ties from china (they were about $1 each). I think they loved the random gift. It also makes for a good story.

Give your co-workers a gift that adds value to them in some way. Focus in on a mutual interest. Or find something that would help the person. At every juncture in your life make sure to give a gift to those you are spending your time with.

Another fun "gift" is a hand written letter. People rarely receive any snail mail these days, but they love it when they do. Be unique.

Unexpected gifts are the best. Right now I have a box with random stuff in it (decorated chop sticks, jade jewelry, a brand new leather belt that does not fit me, a baseball signed by a world record marathoner, coins from around the world, Ghanaian bracelets and those corny blank gift certificates I mentioned. All gifts that will be given at some moment.

I started out my mom's Mother's Day with a note outside of her door for when she woke up. When she came back from church I gave her a card I designed on my computer, peanut M&M's (her all time favorite) and more chocolate. Couple this with a family dinner and an evening spent together and you have a perfect Mother's Day.

Start to give generously.

Once I decided to stop buying things for myself, shifting that to others, I started to become a happier person. It is another vehicle to add value to someone and make a lasting impact on their life.


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Ben DeGeorge is the Co-Founder and Chief Optimism Officer of Notable and Newsworthy. He offers consulting and coaching services and is always up for a "business" lunch or coffee.

He can be reached at bendegeorge@gmail.com or 585.472.4170.

To receive the weekly eZine, The VIP Profiles, email viprofile@gmail.com or visit http://notableandnewsworthy.blogspot.com

JWN: A VIP Student Experience



The VIP Profiles and the Student Experience


By: Joseph W. Norman


It is about that time of the year for me. Or, rather, it is about that time of my life. On May 17, 2008, I will complete my undergraduate experience at the State University of New York at Geneseo, receiving a Bachelor of Arts in English. Often, when I say that, I hear a variety of quips like; “Good luck getting a job,” “Sucks to be you,” or, “What are you going to do with that degree? Teach?” Well, I’m proud to say that none of these particularly apply and that is due in large part to The VIP Profiles.


First, what defines the student experience? Many, in fact most, attest that it is predominately an academic campaign. If we look through this lens at the effect of The VIP Profiles on my experience, the result is pure, unadulterated failure. Since the inception of the eZine on January 21, 2007, my GPA has dropped by approximately half a point. I have “successfully” gone from a 3.63 in my first semester to a solid 3.0 (or slightly below) the last three semesters. On par for this last one too!


Am I proud of this? Not necessarily. But, I have learned a few things about how to have a rewarding student experience. With that in mind, I am proud to say SUNY Geneseo has been an exceptional outlet for my life pursuits. With its focus on a comprehensive liberal arts curriculum (and affordable price), it promotes both classroom excellence and co-curricular involvement. This combination makes up most of the elixir that has left me with a Geneseo love affair.


So, if I claim the experience has been rewarding, but I “failed” academically, then what was it? It was a matter of personal development. The unique mix of activities at Geneseo helped me figure out a large part of who I am, what I want to accomplish, and what I bring to the table in my efforts to complete those goals. This creates the first challenge of describing the college experience for me; “How do you balance academia and life experiences?”


I’ll admit that I am hyper-responsive with things that strike passion in my veins. At the outset of my college career I removed myself from most extra-curricular activities (with the exception of Cross Country and Track) in an effort to excel in the classroom. My first year was an academic success as I posted a 3.53 cumulative GPA at its closing. Not a bad start.



What I learned after that first year though was the importance of being proactive in college and the power of your relationships on personal and professional development. (Insert VIP Profiles plug here).


Now, let’s take a step back from my personal experience and look at a systemic issue in higher education. Educational institutions tend to train employees but we live in a capitalist system in the United States which rewards entrepreneurs and business owners. This paradox throws a wrench in the spokes on the tandem bicycle of college, jointly ridden by academic success and professional development.


The question is, “How do we empower (and effectively place) the future employees and inspire (and train) the prospective entrepreneurs with the same system?”


Back to my experience. I learned a large part about the entrepreneur in me through the relationships I developed and the extra books I read. For those of you still in college, I did in fact say, “extra books.” It comes back to being proactive. You can’t just do enough to get by. You always have to push the limit and take one extra action for YOU everyday. That could be an athletic pursuit or a chapter of a book that covers a subject you are passionate about.



Both of these extra actions have been intimate parts of my life in college. My training as a student-athlete for three and a half years taught me much about competition, camaraderie, and hard work. Meanwhile, my passion for leadership, personal, and professional development led me to Jeffrey Gitomer’s Little Black Book of Connections which inspired The VIP Profiles.


After I co-founded the eZine with Ben, I truly began to find myself. Again, back to the paradox, this was completely an outside of the classroom pursuit. It might as well have been the noose enabling my academic suicide. However, it empowered me to seek out and learn from passionate people. In the beginning it happened unintentionally, but I have since learned that this is the (seemingly lost) art of finding good mentors. Looking back on my experience this was the most critical point.


First, it was Cynthia Oswald, President of the Livingston County Chamber of Commerce. Her generosity of time, energy, and resources has taken second fiddle only to her infectious positive attitude and her living example of effective organizational leadership. Then it was SUNY Geneseo President Christopher Dahl, who I learned countless lessons from through both personal conversations and outside observations. Also, I’d like to add for the “English degree nay-sayers,” Dr. Dahl is a Professor of English at Geneseo and a scholar of Victorian Literature.



As the scope of VIP influence spread itself past the Livingston County lines, I got to know Chris McVicker, Chairman and CEO of The Flanders Group. Words can barely describe the impact this man has had on me. The life and business lessons I continue to learn from Chris make up a tremendous part of who I am and who I will become. Also, you can thank him for about half of the VIPs we have ever featured. He is a great connector!


Now, thanks to an introduction from Chris, I am pleased to mention David Mammano, Founder and CEO of Next Step Publishing.

This is a special relationship in regards to this reflection because David and I are working with another competent and confident colleague, Shaun Walker, on developing a business focused on exactly what this essay is trying to articulate, the college to life transition. More on that to come!


So, what have these tremendous relationships meant to the student experience? They have put me on the path towards letting my life speak. And, isn’t that what college is all about? We study and bust our tail in an effort to get on the right career path (which is hopefully synchronized with our passions).


Again, I’m hyper-responsive. Thus, as I learned from these relationships, I began to search them out with more vigor and intellectual curiosity. Was my approach the correct one? Maybe. But, more importantly it helps me pose this question, “How can students balance the “paradox”?


The answer to that involves a balance between the proactive search for mentors and a concept which I call the “4.0 box.” When I’m beating on doors with my rather bold personality and my offer for VIP status, some of my colleagues are holed up in the library pounding out school work. Which approach is correct? That depends on a person’s objective and I can only speak from my own experience.


This I do know for sure though. Being in college doesn’t mean you’re removed from the real world. The fulfillment I’ve received from interacting with passionate people leads me to believe that a balance between the “4.0 box” and a VIP guy’s lifestyle is an essential component to an effective student experience. Why?


Three reasons. 1) The discipline you develop with your studies can be applied to another (more important) subject, YOU, 2) The professional relationships you proactively pursue create a support system for your career path, and, 1+2=3) A disciplined approach to building genuine relationships will help you discover your passions and develop a clear picture of the path you can take to pursue them.


Since the beginning of my college experience I have believed whole heartedly in the importance of effective communication. This led me to pursuing a degree in English; despite the abuse which asserted that English majors can’t find jobs. My passion for entrepreneurship and personal development inspired the creation of The VIP Profiles with my good friend and colleague, Ben DeGeorge.



Now, my hyperactive approach toward building and maintaining genuine relationships has taken me to the next step in my post undergraduate career…and I’ll let the suspense build on that one.


To sum it up, I will end with a quote from Steve Jobs; “Stay hungry. Stay foolish.” My hunger led me through an English degree towards a career in business and entrepreneurship, while my foolishness helped me ignore those who said that can’t be done. And, most importantly, SUNY Geneseo gave me an outlet to succeed with my rather unconventional approach to the student experience.



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Joseph W. Norman, resides in Geneseo, NY, and is Co-Founder and Editor in Chief of The VIP Profiles. He offers lectures and keynote talks on leadership, personal, and professional development and is always up for a business lunch.


Joseph can be reached at Norms1523@gmail.com or 607.743.8569.


To receive the weekly eZine, The VIP Profiles, email viprofile@gmail.com or visit http://notableandnewsworthy.blogspot.com/